My house is on the market.  An offer comes in.  Lots of demands.  And egos flare.  Is that a good thing?  Here’s my story about an offer that came in.

In this episode, I talk about

  • Extreme Ownership
  • Detach and Removing Ego
  • What is the ultimate goal?

Transcript:

Morning everyone and welcome to episode 125 of the path to 1 million. My name is cliff on this rather gorgeous Saturday morning. Thank you for bearing with me as I get this one out the door a little bit late today. Sorry about that. Anyways, I, so I wanted to tell you a little story bring you up to speed. So the other day as I shared with you before putting the houses on the market, and low and behold, probably within less than 24 hours, we had an offer on the table. And so our, you know, reviewed the offer with my team. Yes, I have assembled a team of course to help me sell the house because I would like to think that I could do everything, but I can’t, a team will always make you more successful than just individual achievement. That’s just something that I’ve learned.

So I go over this with my team and go over the offer with my team asking questions back and forth, thinking about it. And when when this lady extended the offer she put a deadline. Typically the deadline when somebody extends an offer to buy house is three days while she put a deadline on her offer of basically 12 hours, not very long, not very long to make a decision at all. I was really hoping to get like more offers in on and see, you know, what else could possibly happen. So anyways, I remember when she put that in her, in her offer letter and said, you know, the offer expires tonight at six o’clock. I remember that initially when I read that my feathers got ruffled. And I remember thinking to myself, who is this lady to dictate terms to me, I have something that she wants.

She should not be dictating the terms. I shouldn’t be, you know, she shouldn’t be defining the terms of our relationship. How dare she do this? I’m, you know, always leaned back from a deal, never leaned forward. Basically what it was is, is during this whole time that was that it was happening and it was, I was letting my ego drive the bus. That’s really what it boils down to. That’s really what it boiled down to. So I remember I had to take a step back. And you know, first thing I always do is when I feel this negativity, whenever I’m working in any kind of a situation or dealing with a contract or negotiations or any kind of project management or anything else, the first thing I noticed is that when I start to feel negative on the inside, the first thing I have to do is take a step back and say, okay well you know, why am I feeling this way?

What’s going on? In other words, I needed to detach myself from the situation and say, okay, what’s really happening here? Why am I really feeling this way? Is this conducive to, you know, getting the project done or moving the deal forward or you know, whatever that might be. And in this particular case I quickly recognized that, you know what? I’m letting my ego drive the bus. My Ego does not drive the bus because I have goals, I have objectives or whatever it is. And of course, you know, while I’m doing this self reflection and self analization just taking a step back, we did have another offer come in, which was great cause now we had more than one offer to, to compare to. But this is all part of the, and I know I’ve talked about this before about people taking ownership of their life, every aspect of their life, never laying the blame on other people’s feet.

You know, I could have just easily just said to this other lady, hey, you know what I appreciate you putting in an offer, but you know, nobody dictates terms to me. Or I could have returned her off for the next day just to show her who was boss in this negotiation. But really you know, the, the primary objective of course is to sell the house and get a decent price from it and make sure that everybody on the team is taken care of. We’re all working towards the same goals and you know, her offer would allow us to do all of that. So it’s just a matter of taking a step back. Something that I don’t see a lot of people do very much and it seems to be very prevalent, is taking that ownership of everything that they do in their life and everything that’s happened.

And they do let egos drive the bus for some reason. Another, it’s like, you know, their feathers get ruffled easily or whatever it is whenever you’re dealing with them. And you know, no matter how many times you tried to calm them down, it’s the, their ego gets away on of check and it’s because they’re not practicing the concept of ownership. Everything is everybody else’s fault. They did nothing wrong. They’re just, you know, defending themselves or whatever terminology that they want to use. So, but anyways, in this particular case, you know, I put my ego in check, you know, I had this other offer came in which made me feel better, but her offer was still a stronger. And then plus, you know, really at the end of the day, cause I did spend about an hour and a half with her the day before just talking to her about the house in general.

And all the other questions you know, at the end of the day just decided to go with her offer, you know, and we made some counter offers, did some negotiating back and forth. But, but because I was able to remove my ego from the equation we were able to successfully negotiate a contract that I think will make her very happy and it will make me very happy at the same time. So, you know, again, benefits of removing your ego from the equation, I. E. Taking ownership of the entire situation, top to bottom. What’s the most important thing? Is Her request unreasonable or is it reasonable? What would I do if I was in her shoes? Things along those lines allows me to understand better what’s going on. Again, all part of that ownership. And I think if more people took ownership of their lives and the situations that they’re in, you know, no doubt.

I think there’d be a lot more happier people on the planet rather than a lot of victims on the planet. Because when you don’t take ownership by default, you’re a victim and nothing is your fault. Everything happens to you. What was you? So anyways, I just wanted to share that little tidbit of information with you today. I’ll bring you up to speed of what’s going on and some of the thoughts that were rolling around in my head. I want to thank you guys all for stopping by today. Like I said, this one went out a little bit late today. I’ve been burning the candle at both ends lately. Just trying to get everything with the house done and packing up my stuff and everything else. And I just, and just this morning I was just wiped and I will be back again tomorrow with another story. I’ll see you then. Have a great Saturday.