Decisions.  The hardest thing to do in life is to make a decision.  So why are some people so good at it while others fail miserably?  Here’s a few stories around different people making decisions.  Or indecision.

In this episode, I talk about:

  • Restaurant Menus
  • What Causes the Greatest Angst
  • Making Decisions

Transcript:

Good morning everyone. Welcome to the path to 1 million. This is episode 104. Boom. Hope you guys are going to have a fantastic Friday today. I know, I will. I’m super stoked. Things are going really well. I’m very happy about that. I wanted to chat with you guys about, it was interesting. I was at a restaurant the other day and there was a couple that was next to me. Oh. Hey Chris. Thanks for jumping in today. Thanks for like I was sitting at a restaurant the other day and there was a couple that were sitting next to me and the, the wife was doing something at the table that I had seen in probably like a thousand times before easily. It took me back in time. What it was is, is way back in the day. This guy and I were having lunch and we would have lunch frequently. We were just starting, we had just read all these Robert Kiyosaki books.

We were very interested in getting into real estate investing. He and I would get together and we would brainstorm and we would strategize and what do we need to know about corporations and all this other stuff. Dah, Dah, Dah, Dah. And he would, I would, he and I would get together and we would have these working lunches no matter where we went, no matter what restaurant that we chose. Whenever we would go there, he would, you know, the waitress would come up to the table and the waitress would say, you know, what do you want? And I’m like, oh, I’ll have these steak fajitas please. And then she would turn to him and she would say, okay, what do you want? He never knew what he wanted. Every single time we went to a restaurant, he never knew what he wanted. We could sit there for a half an hour staring at that menu and he could not decide for the life of him what it is that he wanted.

So then what he would do is he would start asking the waitress questions. Like he would sit there and say, well, I’m thinking about the Chimi Changa does that come with Spanish rice? And she would say, yes, it comes to Spanish, rice, all of our main entrees do. And then he would say something like, hmm, do you make your Spanish rice was salsa or with tomato? And then she would sit there and kind of look at him and she’d be like, well he makes it with tomato and a bunch of other spices. And then he would say, hmm, could he make me some Spanish rice without the tomato? Now keep in mind, this is like a big box brand, right? It’s like El Torito or some kind of national brand or something like that. So it’s not like the chefs are whipping everything up from scratch in the back room.

A lot of the stuff that they get is already premade, but the server would sit there and kind of look at them and you know, you could just see it in her mind. She’s asking herself, man, is this guy for real? You know? And so she’s like, well, I don’t know. I can ask if he can, but the stuff is already premade. He’s like, hmm, well I guess nevermind. And then you would proceed to do that with like almost every single item on the menu. He would always ask some kind of question that was completely irrelevant and we would sit there for the longest time I am getting irritated because he can’t decide. The waitresses irritated because she can’t decide. And ultimately at the end of the day he would, he would pick a dish and he would eat everything that’s on his plate. Right? It’s like he just could not decide to save his life.

And it made me think about that whole decision making process. Right. Why is it that some people don’t seem to have a problem making a decision, but yet other people seem to always stumble and fall? And I don’t know. From my standpoint, I know that the times in my life where there has been a lot of angst, a lot of anxiety where I have negatively impacted the people around me. It is because it’s in those moments where I haven’t made a decision. You know, I’d say, oh, I would like to do this, or I would like to do this, or you know, I would half ass commit to do this or do something else. And there are people around me that are waiting for me to pull the trigger to actually do something, take some kind of an action or whatever it is. And for some reason another, I would not do it.

But once I decided to do something, then the ball got moving forward. Right. And then once they did that and then people knew what to do and they knew where to go and all these other things, like for instance, the House that I’m working on right now, there was a moment of indecision because I wanted to work with this specific contractor and this contractor was giving me nothing but problems every single step of the way. So every time that I would ask him to do something, he would promise me, Oh, it will be done by the end of the day. The end of the day it would come and it wouldn’t be done. Or he would say, I’ll call you or I’m going to get this guy over there or this guy is going to show up or do whatever, and I would put my whole schedule on hold and time after time again, this contractor was letting me down.

So the decision was do I let this guy go and work with somebody else or do I stick with this guy? And I couldn’t decide. But even indecision is a decision by itself because I couldn’t decide whether to let him go or not. He was still under the assumption he was working for me. So I was hoping against hope that he would actually come through with something. And then one day it occurred to me, you know, once again when he let me down, are the decisions are, are, are the thoughts that I’m having right now, is it going to support my overall goal, my overall objective? And the answer to that question was no. And it was like, okay, well now that I’ve, now that I’ve answered that question, now what do I have to do to rectify it? Because I have certain goals, certain patterns, certain objectives that I want to achieve.

And so when something comes up and I have to make a decision on it, does what I’m about to decide to do. Does this particular action support my overgrow over overall goal, overall vision, if it does support my overall goal or overall vision, are there any risk of there any downsides? And if they are, what are they? Okay. And then move forward. I don’t, I, I sometimes get lost in the game of what if, what I’m trying to make a decision? Well what if I decide this and then this happens and then this happens, this happens. And the hardest thing I have to remind myself always is that I can not predict the future. I just can’t. So play in the what if scenario really doesn’t help me out all that much. It’s make a decision and if a new problem pops up, then solve that.

Because really at the end of the day, if you’ve got new problems that are popping up in your life, that is a good thing. It took me forever to finally wrap my head around that notion, but it did because if you’ve got new problems that are popping up in your life, if you’re asking yourself new questions and different questions, it means that you’re moving forward. If you’re facing the same old problems than the same old questions every single day. It’s because I’m usually standing still, so I will always want to keep my life moving forward. I always want to go in that same trajectory

And finally with working with this guy that I told you about Mr Spanish rice, that could not make up his mind about anything. He couldn’t make up his mind about anything at all. I mean, we’re talking not only about the Spanish rice and what to eat, but also at the same point in time he couldn’t make a decision about real estate and how to get started and what was the best way to do and stuff and Duh Duh. There was always obstacles or always problems from him making a decision. Needless to say, he and I didn’t hang out for very long after that because I was ready to move forward and he was not. And every single time that I would say, well, I’m going to go do this. And I would start to, I would start to move forward and I would start to, to engage with people. He would always come from almost as thing a fear like, well, what are you going to do about this and what are you gonna do? And I told them, I play black. I was like, I don’t know. I don’t know what I’m going to do about all these things, but I am going to take a step forward and these other things I’m just gonna have to figure out as I go along.

Because I do know this, Napoleon Hill, the author of Think and Grow Rich, probably like the top selling book of the 20th century, billions of copies sold, things like that. He actually said something that I thought was ridiculously powerful. He said, “Opportunity never comes to those who straddle the fence of indecision.”

Yeah.

So right or wrong, it’s better to make a decision. And to move forward. At least that’s the way it is in my life. Anyways, I thought I would just share that with you guys today. Just some stuff that was rattling around in the back of my head. Thank you all for stopping by. I really do appreciate it. I will catch you guys again tomorrow with another story. I’ll see you then.