Another TV show where the experts do more harm than good for a 20-something who doesn’t know what he is passionate about.

In this episode, I talk about:

  • Computers and Experts are wrong
  • Sane advice if you don’t know your passion
  • What it feels like when you do

Transcript:

Hello everyone. Welcome to The Path to 1 million. This is episode 213. So yeah, there’s a lot of ice this last weekend. A lot of snow, the the back roads of where we live, we’re ridiculously treacherous. And if you add to that, the fact that my coughing and my sickness actually got a lot worse. And then on top of that I was trying to take care of Sherry making her the priority for over the weekend. So I apologize for not getting any episodes out over the last four or five days, but I want to get back on track this week from doing it cause I really do love these things. Anyways. the reason why I’m sharing the story that I want to share with you guys today is I was watching on the TV last week and I can’t remember which shell, but it was just another one of these shows where there was like a young person that was on there and he was trying to figure out what, you know, what he wanted to do with his life or you know, what he wanted to, you know, get his degree in or maybe a business, you should start something along those lines.

And of course all these experts on there were asking him what he was passionate about and he kept saying, I don’t know. I don’t know. And they’re at that point in time when he said, I don’t know, like any advice that they had for him completely fell apart. Cause then all of a sudden they were saying, well, if you knew what you were passionate about, then you could do this. Or they knew could do this. And they were trying to ask him questions to reveal like stuff that he was passionate about. And the thing is, he didn’t know what he was passionate about enough anyways to like say, you know what, I’m passionate about frogs, so maybe I should get a degree in biology. You know? And he didn’t know if he wanted to make that six year commitment or six year or eight year commitment, 10 year commitment to get his veterinary license if he wanted to go that far.

And they kept pushing him. But all their advice was predicated on one simple concept. And that was, you have to know what you’re passionate about. And it got me thinking of when I was back in high school, and I want to say this was in ninth grade, we took this thing that was called a MOIS test, a MOIS I believe it was what it was called, Michigan Occupational (Information System). Anyways, a computer that was supposed to be infinitely smarter than us would ask a series of questions. We would fill out those little bubbles on a sheet and we would turn it into the computer and the computer would come back and tell us, you know, these are professions, these are jobs that you would be good for. And so I remember when I filled mine out and it came back and I think it came back with like three professions came back with pilot, which I thought was really cool.

Came back with aerospace engineer, which is kind of sort of what I was looking for and mortician which I didn’t expect that, I didn’t think I looked like lurch or anything else like that. So I couldn’t understand why I would think that I had an interest in burying dead people, but I had no interest in, in following that business or that line of work. So that one kinda fell on the ground, but I know there was some kids in the class that they must had like 25 or 30 different careers to choose from. I had those three. That’s what I remember.

And I know that really at the end of the day, as much as I, I enjoy doing engineering as much as I enjoyed working at the different companies that I worked at and making the impact on the people that I did. You know, I would have to say that I don’t really have any idea as to, you know, that being my true passion in life. Like something I get up in the morning and think about like, wow, today I, I am so excited to do X, Y, Z, in the field of aerospace. And I don’t ever remember doing that. But the thing is is it would have, it would take me almost like two or three decades of asking that question and trying little things and experimenting over here, experiment. And over there, when I finally got to the point where, you know, just on a Lark I decided to start writing, sharing stories and writing is something I’ve always been interested in.

Something that I’ve always done, writing stories as far back as I can remember. It never showed up on my Moyse thing at all to be a writer by any stretch of the imagination. And I know growing up, if you wanted to not eat, if you wanted to be homeless than be a writer, you know, that was kinda like the way that writers were portrayed or the writing profession portrayed when I was growing up. And, but I, I just remember that it wasn’t a tall, like a handful of years ago that I realized that this is something that I really care about. This is something that I’m passionate about and that is story. And that is about sharing story, connecting the stories. And when people write back to me, I mean only tell me that the impact that my stories are having on them and aspiring them to share their own stories and to change the world in their own way really just lit the fire in me.

Like I could not believe. And I remember that there was something that I saw on TV and this was a handful of years ago, but Mark Cuban actually said this. He was the first one I remember on mainstream that said, don’t do what you’re passionate about because that’s the, that’s the surest way to hate what it is you’re about to do. What you need to do is you need to find something that you’re good at, something that you can make money at, something that you can turn into a business at. And when you start getting those successes, that is going to become what you’re passionate about and that’s going to fuel you to get better and to build your business more or to be a better whatever that might be. But I just remember thinking to myself that, that to me actually sounded like sound advice because a lot of times when people say they don’t know, which is totally cool, some people aren’t happy chasing their profession, like the ice scraper guy chasing their profession.

And you know, just, you know, I love this. This is what I want to do for the rest of my life. Versus other people that have no idea. And the principal, I have no idea. It’s almost like you almost have to go to like a smorgasbord, right? There’s all these foods in front of you. You don’t know what you’re going to like until you taste it. So you just have to keep trying all these different things until you land on something that you sit there and say, wow, I’m good at. It. Could be maybe you have some kind of natural ability. Maybe there’s something from your that you were good at that all of a sudden now you don’t you know, you just, you know, you’d forgotten about or whatever it is, but now all of a sudden it’s turned into a real business for you.

So I just remember thinking about that the other day with Mark Cuban and his advice that I know that sounds completely contrarian to everything else that I seem to be reading and hearing out there. But just experimenting, you know, finding out what your, you know, what you’re really passionate about and if you’re not passionate about, at least you tried it, you know, move on to the next thing. But you know, the important thing is to never give up. Because once you do find something that, something that you’re really good at, something that you Excel at and then you’re able to move forward with, you know, just wake up with that, that, that fire in your belly, man, there’s, there’s no other feeling like it in the world, you know, so, and I’m looking forward to doing that a lot more. You know, in the future as the days, months and years go by sharing more stories helping other people to share their stories as well. But anyways, I just wanted to share that with you guys today and thank you for being patient with me and I’m still trying to get over this cold and I got an appointment to, to see a a nurse practitioner tomorrow. Normally she can give me something to knock the sodomy cause this has been going on since before Christmas. So anyways, I just want to share that with you guys. Hope you guys are doing well on this Monday. I’ll be back again tomorrow with another story I’ll see at that time. Take care. Bye.